Ridiculous!

My daughter is my biggest stumbling block for trying to get out the door.....No matter what I ask, there is drama involved....The girl has been putting her shoes on for months, a whole year I think, but because I told her tonight to put her socks and shoes on, suddenly, there are tears and an absolute "I don't know how" This obviously drives me insane, so while I was putting her shoes on, I told her she was ridiculous....Well, I did not know that its a bad word to toddlers....She started crying and said, "Don't say that to me, I don't want to be that, that's a bad word.....I don't want the police to come and get me!" I never knew.....but now that I do.....